Again

Not sure if this is the right decision but I think I owe it to all to give it a go. The boy has done a runner again – he was grounded for not eating his vegetables at tea time, or so he says. Actually he was treating folks in the house with contempt and rudeness. So, he was grounded. That’s neither here or there though. He didn’t come home last night and refuses to do so. The Police were called as usual and they did there thing. Today (Saturday) they spoke to him and called Michelle. They said to her maybe she reconsiders the grounding and maybe he will come home, right now he’s not returning. This is the seventh or eighth time this has happened and things have gone too far.

The last time this happened I spoke to him and asked him to make a decision to stay and live by the house rules or leave. I have reminded him of the agreement and it has worked until now. It appears when he can’t have his own way he rebels and, pardon the French... gives us a good slagging. This time it’s different, I see this attempt as his decision to leave home – with the cops telling us he is safe and we should back down I feel we have done all we can - time to cut him loose to be and do what he wants. My gut feeling is he will create problems for people and they will resent him and us as parents. What are we to do? It seems out of control.

The decision I mentioned above is this, after spouting off and getting over my anger and frustration I am going to ask him to pick up his clothes and what possessions he wants, then I will give him some money to be getting on with. I know this is not right but I really do feel it will help give him some comforts and help to get by for a little while. After this I’ll tell him I love him and that the way home is for him to open the negotiations. I am closing off all other avenues for him to return. This time he will have to deal with it all. Now I know this will be huge for him to do and will probably never happen. He needs to learn that the family he is part of are all equal and should all respect and love one another. This takes commitment... He will have some hard lessons over the next few days.

Lord I pray to you to forgive us both and help us to help each other, in Jesus name. Amen.

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